While there are many factors in the development of a positive self-image, I recall listening to an interview on the Canadian Broadcasting Corporation (CBC) radio several years ago in which a psychologist was discussing how we as parents can encourage the development of self esteem in our children. During the discussion the psychologist noted the importance of the pre-teen years and the issue of "self-mastery".
During the pre-teen years our children go through many changing interests. The psychologist noted it is important to expose our children to different activities but we should always be observant and supportive of activities that are of particular interest when there is an opportunity to gain a sense of mastery. This sense of personal mastery whether it be gained through activities such as soccer, baseball, hockey or a martial art is important as the child moves into teen and adult years.
During the pre-teen years our children go through many changing interests. The psychologist noted it is important to expose our children to different activities but we should always be observant and supportive of activities that are of particular interest when there is an opportunity to gain a sense of mastery. This sense of personal mastery whether it be gained through activities such as soccer, baseball, hockey or a martial art is important as the child moves into teen and adult years.
Many organized sports naturally come with a competitive component; the need to be a part of and contribute to the team effort. While this is a very positive experience for most, some children develop their social and physical skills at different rates. This difference, for some, can cause self esteem issues if their fellow team members perceive them to be a "weak link" in the team. Some group activities support an environment of team or group inclusion while emphasizing progress and mastery based on an individual, non-competitive basis.
If your child is or has been the target of bullying in which their self esteem has suffered and their experience in team sports has not been a positive one, there are still many programs that will allow them to achieve this sense of mastery at their own pace while being part of a group.
If your child is or has been the target of bullying in which their self esteem has suffered and their experience in team sports has not been a positive one, there are still many programs that will allow them to achieve this sense of mastery at their own pace while being part of a group.
